Client story
Simon Cockram
Strategic Account Director · 1:1 Coaching · Mental Fitness Programme · NLP
“My work and family life no longer compete with each other. I have the platform and skills to excel professionally and personally.”
The situation
Hyper-achiever. Unable to Switch Off.
At work, Simon wanted to explore new entrepreneurial avenues, but he was experiencing analysis paralysis; not trusting his gut. He felt he’d lost access to his creativity.
His “Saboteur” profile – the subconscious patterns that undermine performance even in high-functioning people – pointed clearly to dominant Pleaser and Hyper-achiever tendencies.
His Hyper-achiever meant that at home, Simon was not really present. He was constantly thinking of work, unable to switch off, worrying.
His Pleaser meant that his needs always went last. For Simon, it was playing out both professionally and at home: deferring to others’ agendas over his own, taking on work that didn’t serve him, and finding it hard to hold his boundaries and over-extending himself.
This created a huge sense of frustration.
The work
Emotional Self-Regulation. Creating Presence.
Simon did the Positive Intelligence mental fitness programme and six 1:1 sessions.
The mental fitness programme worked to build his ability to emotionally self-regulate so he could feel more in control. We created awareness around his Hyper-achiever and Pleaser tendencies, allowing him to disconnect from his habitual responses, and to build more constructive ways of behaving that soon became habits.
In the 1:1 sessions, we commercially explored potential career ventures, and conducted deeper work to address limiting beliefs, using NLP exercises to dissolve triggers around parental relationships, and to reconcile what felt like two opposed parts of his life; family and career.
The shift
Clear, Calm, Consistent.
Simon was able to get clarity on the next steps in his career path; initiating his passion project as a side-hustle.
He calmed his Hyper achiever “Saboteur” and just became a regular high achiever! Work no longer consumed him, and as a result he became more productive. He trusted his gut again, made decisions with clarity, and learned to say a clear no.
At home, he became notably present with his family, noticing and enjoying the little moments with his young son. Where distraction and negative thinking arose, he became adept at quickly brushing it off and getting present again.
If Simon’s story sounds familiar, see my Boundaries Coaching page.
“I wrote a book off the back of the work, and now meditate and journal most days. I often used to feel low and now I’m clear, calm and consistent.”
| Area | Before | After |
|---|---|---|
| Presence at home | 2–4 | 8–9 |
| Emotional regulation | 2 | 8–9 |
| Confidence & self-trust | 8–9 | 10 |
Testimonial
“My general well-being has improved, I have empathy for myself for the first time, my mind is clear and am far more productive at work and I’m creative again! At home, I’m present, and able to enjoy my family without saboteur interference. It’s been life changing.”
Success should not come at the cost of your peace
Start with a free session. This is a space to slow down, be seen and get honest about what is working and what is not. Expect to leave with real insight, practical next steps and a fresh sense of possibility.
Book the 90-minute Clarity Session, or start with a 20-minute exploratory chat.
